Advice: To Marry or Not to Marry? ๐ค
A young man approached a wise man and said:
โ Teacher! I need advice. I like a girl. I really like her. And now I'm tormented because I don't know what to do: to marry or not.
โ Don't get married.
โ But why?!
โ Because you're asking. If you really wanted it, you wouldn't ask.โค๏ธ
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A young man approached a wise man and said:
โ Teacher! I need advice. I like a girl. I really like her. And now I'm tormented because I don't know what to do: to marry or not.
โ Don't get married.
โ But why?!
โ Because you're asking. If you really wanted it, you wouldn't ask.
#Psychology
@Motivation
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๐ Financial Rules for Every Couple Before Moving in Together ๐ฐ
The decision to start living together is a natural progression of romantic relationships. But sometimes lovers' illusions shatter against the realities of daily life and unwillingness to listen to each other. Financial matters pose another challenge for a couple.
You should have shared goals.
As a couple, you should work together towards a common financial goal. This will make you feel like partners. Of course, you don't need to directly ask, "What are your goals?" Dream together about what you would like to see in your life in five years. Find out how your partner envisions their life at the age when children grow up (and, by the way, how many will there be?).
Pay attention to your partner's financial habits and impulsivity.
Sometimes a couple moves in together literally within the first weeks of dating. Excited about this new stage in life, neither of them dares to talk about such mundane matters as finances. Already at the beginning of the relationship, pay attention to how impulsive your partner is and whether they are capable of planning. Assessing this is not always easy, but it's an important point.
Mine - yours - ours.
After deciding to live together, set boundaries: "What's mine, what's yours, and what can be considered ours?" The first impulse, of course, will be to combine all finances. However, experts advise against doing just that. Honesty above all. Don't hide financial expenditures from each other. Secret shopping trips will erode trust within the couple. This doesn't mean you need to account for every penny spent, but it's better if your personal expenses are within an agreed-upon limit, and major purchases are discussed together in advance.๐ฌ ๐ธ
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The decision to start living together is a natural progression of romantic relationships. But sometimes lovers' illusions shatter against the realities of daily life and unwillingness to listen to each other. Financial matters pose another challenge for a couple.
You should have shared goals.
As a couple, you should work together towards a common financial goal. This will make you feel like partners. Of course, you don't need to directly ask, "What are your goals?" Dream together about what you would like to see in your life in five years. Find out how your partner envisions their life at the age when children grow up (and, by the way, how many will there be?).
Pay attention to your partner's financial habits and impulsivity.
Sometimes a couple moves in together literally within the first weeks of dating. Excited about this new stage in life, neither of them dares to talk about such mundane matters as finances. Already at the beginning of the relationship, pay attention to how impulsive your partner is and whether they are capable of planning. Assessing this is not always easy, but it's an important point.
Mine - yours - ours.
After deciding to live together, set boundaries: "What's mine, what's yours, and what can be considered ours?" The first impulse, of course, will be to combine all finances. However, experts advise against doing just that. Honesty above all. Don't hide financial expenditures from each other. Secret shopping trips will erode trust within the couple. This doesn't mean you need to account for every penny spent, but it's better if your personal expenses are within an agreed-upon limit, and major purchases are discussed together in advance.
#Psychology
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Being Yourself
Once, the great composer Irving Berlin heard the music of the budding composer George Gershwin. It made a very strong impression on him. So strong that Berlin offered Gershwin the position of his musical secretary with a salary three times higher than others.
Gershwin actually agreed.
โ But don't take this job, โ Berlin said after voicing his offer.
โ Why?
โ Because if you agree, you'll become a second-rate Berlin. But if you remain yourself, perhaps one fine day you'll become a first-rate Gershwin.
And Gershwin refused to become Irving Berlin's musical secretary.
Over time, George Gershwin became a great American composer.๐ถ
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Once, the great composer Irving Berlin heard the music of the budding composer George Gershwin. It made a very strong impression on him. So strong that Berlin offered Gershwin the position of his musical secretary with a salary three times higher than others.
Gershwin actually agreed.
โ But don't take this job, โ Berlin said after voicing his offer.
โ Why?
โ Because if you agree, you'll become a second-rate Berlin. But if you remain yourself, perhaps one fine day you'll become a first-rate Gershwin.
And Gershwin refused to become Irving Berlin's musical secretary.
Over time, George Gershwin became a great American composer.
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Signs of high intelligence ๐ง
High intelligence is both a gift and a curse. Smart people adapt better to circumstances, find it easier to control themselves, possess empathy, and are curious. It's more fun with smart people because the higher the intelligence, the finer the sense of humor. But, as it turns out, they also share some characteristic flaws.
Among them, "night owls" are more common. ๐ฆ
Love staying up late? Another sign of developed intelligence. In one study, it was found that most "night owls" have a high IQ. Among them are, for example, Charles Darwin, Winston Churchill, Keith Richards, and Elvis Presley. They all loved creating at night. If you prefer to stay up late, you're in great company.
Chaos on the desk can indicate high IQ.๐ง
If there's chaos around you, there's good news for you. A University of Minnesota study claims that many geniuses had a messy desk. Don't waste time cleaning up? Perhaps your thoughts are occupied with more important things.
According to research, chaos sets a creative mood.
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High intelligence is both a gift and a curse. Smart people adapt better to circumstances, find it easier to control themselves, possess empathy, and are curious. It's more fun with smart people because the higher the intelligence, the finer the sense of humor. But, as it turns out, they also share some characteristic flaws.
Among them, "night owls" are more common. ๐ฆ
Love staying up late? Another sign of developed intelligence. In one study, it was found that most "night owls" have a high IQ. Among them are, for example, Charles Darwin, Winston Churchill, Keith Richards, and Elvis Presley. They all loved creating at night. If you prefer to stay up late, you're in great company.
Chaos on the desk can indicate high IQ.
If there's chaos around you, there's good news for you. A University of Minnesota study claims that many geniuses had a messy desk. Don't waste time cleaning up? Perhaps your thoughts are occupied with more important things.
According to research, chaos sets a creative mood.
#Psychology
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The Parable of Trading Methods ๐ฐ
An old man sells watermelons at the market under a sign that reads,
"One watermelon - 3 dollars. Three watermelons - 10 dollars." ๐
A man approaches and buys one watermelon for three dollars...
then another watermelon for three dollars...
then yet another watermelon for three dollars...
and as he leaves, he joyfully says to the seller,
"Look, I bought three watermelons and only paid 9 dollars! You don't know how to trade!"
The old man watches him go and remarks,
"And that's how it always goes - they take three watermelons instead of one, and then teach me about commerce..."๐ฐ
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An old man sells watermelons at the market under a sign that reads,
"One watermelon - 3 dollars. Three watermelons - 10 dollars." ๐
A man approaches and buys one watermelon for three dollars...
then another watermelon for three dollars...
then yet another watermelon for three dollars...
and as he leaves, he joyfully says to the seller,
"Look, I bought three watermelons and only paid 9 dollars! You don't know how to trade!"
The old man watches him go and remarks,
"And that's how it always goes - they take three watermelons instead of one, and then teach me about commerce..."
#Psychology
@Motivation
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Attracting anyone to yourself๐ค
Accept people as they are.
Accepting another means not judging them. Feel the difference between "accepting" and "praising" - these are different things. Praise is always pleasant, but it's based on an evaluation system. And by praising today, you might criticize tomorrow.๐
Minimize categorization.
People tend to divide everything into black and white. This helps to navigate in space and in life, make firm decisions, and not doubt oneself. But it's important to differentiate between the ability to independently and responsibly make choices and the desire to judge everyone and everything as "bad" or "good."
It's important to remember that any evaluation is subjective and carries the life experience, worldview, and character of the person making the judgment.๐ค
Unite with others in positivity.
Coming together with others on a positive basis is a powerful tool for building strong friendships and partnerships. For example, "We were assigned to lead this project together for a reason; you and I are strong professionals, and together we'll make an amazing product." This is an example of uniting on a positive basis.
In contrast, I'll give an example of uniting on a negative basis: "We were given this project because only you and I work tirelessly in this company for a meager salary; we've found two reliable people and they're taking advantage of us." Feel the difference? The examples speak for themselves.๐ค
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Accept people as they are.
Accepting another means not judging them. Feel the difference between "accepting" and "praising" - these are different things. Praise is always pleasant, but it's based on an evaluation system. And by praising today, you might criticize tomorrow.
Minimize categorization.
People tend to divide everything into black and white. This helps to navigate in space and in life, make firm decisions, and not doubt oneself. But it's important to differentiate between the ability to independently and responsibly make choices and the desire to judge everyone and everything as "bad" or "good."
It's important to remember that any evaluation is subjective and carries the life experience, worldview, and character of the person making the judgment.
Unite with others in positivity.
Coming together with others on a positive basis is a powerful tool for building strong friendships and partnerships. For example, "We were assigned to lead this project together for a reason; you and I are strong professionals, and together we'll make an amazing product." This is an example of uniting on a positive basis.
In contrast, I'll give an example of uniting on a negative basis: "We were given this project because only you and I work tirelessly in this company for a meager salary; we've found two reliable people and they're taking advantage of us." Feel the difference? The examples speak for themselves.
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Reality ๐ณ
Not far from the road stood a small dried-up tree. ๐ฃ๏ธ
In the evening, along the road, a mother passed by with her child. The little one, frightened by scary tales, thought there was a ghost by the road. He got scared and burst into loud tears.๐ข
Later, a young man walked along this road. He noticed the graceful silhouette from afar and thought that his beloved had been waiting for him for a long time. His heart beat joyfully. He smiled and quickened his pace.๐
Later, at night, a thief passed by. He saw the silhouette in the distance and thought it was a policeman standing by the road. He got scared and ran away.๐ฑ
But the tree always remained just a tree! ๐ณ
The world around us is a reflection of ourselves. ๐
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Not far from the road stood a small dried-up tree. ๐ฃ๏ธ
In the evening, along the road, a mother passed by with her child. The little one, frightened by scary tales, thought there was a ghost by the road. He got scared and burst into loud tears.
Later, a young man walked along this road. He noticed the graceful silhouette from afar and thought that his beloved had been waiting for him for a long time. His heart beat joyfully. He smiled and quickened his pace.
Later, at night, a thief passed by. He saw the silhouette in the distance and thought it was a policeman standing by the road. He got scared and ran away.
But the tree always remained just a tree! ๐ณ
The world around us is a reflection of ourselves. ๐
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Ways to develop empathy ๐
Being empathetic enriches relationships with others. When we understand the feelings of those around us, we can establish a deeper connection with them. Our conversation partner will definitely feel that we accept them for who they are. โค๏ธ
When asking someone how they are, pay close attention to their response - both verbal and non-verbal. Body language and tone of voice often speak louder than words.๐ค
Listen not only with your mind but also with your heart, trust your intuition. Empathy is soul work.๐
Focus on the conversation, avoid multitasking. Put your phone aside, make eye contact, adopt an open posture (don't cross your arms).๐ฑ
Try to understand what your conversation partner's words and feelings mean to them, and allow them to come to their own conclusion without imposing your opinion.๐ค
Don't shift the focus onto yourself, for example, by telling how you would act in a similar situation.๐ซ
Remember that you can take your conversation partner's opinion seriously and respectfully, even if you disagree with them.๐
Cultivate curiosity about people. Try to imagine someone's past experiences, think about how they came to their current habits and way of life, what they want most. In other words, try to put yourself in their shoes.๐ค
Engage in conversations with strangers, for example, in line at the store. Be curious, try to learn something new. ๐ฅ
Train yourself to be less self-absorbed and pay more attention to the immediate surroundings: people, buildings, cars, parks, sounds. Imagine yourself as a detective gathering information. ๐ต๏ธโโ๏ธ
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Being empathetic enriches relationships with others. When we understand the feelings of those around us, we can establish a deeper connection with them. Our conversation partner will definitely feel that we accept them for who they are. โค๏ธ
When asking someone how they are, pay close attention to their response - both verbal and non-verbal. Body language and tone of voice often speak louder than words.
Listen not only with your mind but also with your heart, trust your intuition. Empathy is soul work.
Focus on the conversation, avoid multitasking. Put your phone aside, make eye contact, adopt an open posture (don't cross your arms).
Try to understand what your conversation partner's words and feelings mean to them, and allow them to come to their own conclusion without imposing your opinion.
Don't shift the focus onto yourself, for example, by telling how you would act in a similar situation.
Remember that you can take your conversation partner's opinion seriously and respectfully, even if you disagree with them.
Cultivate curiosity about people. Try to imagine someone's past experiences, think about how they came to their current habits and way of life, what they want most. In other words, try to put yourself in their shoes.
Engage in conversations with strangers, for example, in line at the store. Be curious, try to learn something new. ๐ฅ
Train yourself to be less self-absorbed and pay more attention to the immediate surroundings: people, buildings, cars, parks, sounds. Imagine yourself as a detective gathering information. ๐ต๏ธโโ๏ธ
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The Parable of Learning ๐
Once, a young man came to an old but highly respected person and asked for permission to learn from him.๐ง๐ปโ๐
"Why do you need this?" asked the old man.๐ค
"I want to become strong and unbeatable," replied the youth.๐ช๐ผ
"Then become it! Be kind to everyone, polite, and attentive. Kindness and politeness will earn you the respect of others. Your spirit will become pure and kind, thus, strong. Being attentive will help you notice the subtle changes. You will have the opportunity to find the right path to avoid conflict, thus, winning the battle without engaging in it. And if you learn to prevent conflicts, you will become unbeatable."๐
"Why?" inquired the youth. ๐คจ
"Because you won't have anyone to fight with," replied the wise man. ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
The young man left. It was a long time before he came back to the wise man again.โณ
"What do you need?" asked the old man. ๐ฐ๏ธ
"I came to inquire about your health and to see if you needed any assistance..." said the youth. ๐คฒ๐ผ
The old man smiled.๐
"What did you really want? To become strong and unbeatable? Alright, I will teach you that!" ๐
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Once, a young man came to an old but highly respected person and asked for permission to learn from him.
"Why do you need this?" asked the old man.
"I want to become strong and unbeatable," replied the youth.
"Then become it! Be kind to everyone, polite, and attentive. Kindness and politeness will earn you the respect of others. Your spirit will become pure and kind, thus, strong. Being attentive will help you notice the subtle changes. You will have the opportunity to find the right path to avoid conflict, thus, winning the battle without engaging in it. And if you learn to prevent conflicts, you will become unbeatable."
"Why?" inquired the youth. ๐คจ
"Because you won't have anyone to fight with," replied the wise man. ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
The young man left. It was a long time before he came back to the wise man again.
"What do you need?" asked the old man. ๐ฐ๏ธ
"I came to inquire about your health and to see if you needed any assistance..." said the youth. ๐คฒ๐ผ
The old man smiled.
"What did you really want? To become strong and unbeatable? Alright, I will teach you that!" ๐
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